We all have fears. Some of these are rooted in rational reasons and some of these aren’t but that’s ok. If you’ve ever been afraid of anything, I would really encourage you to watch Tim Ferriss’ ‘Why you should define your fears instead of your goals’ (PS: his story is incredibly moving). Often in today’s society, we are encouraged to think about our goals and ambitions and to always aim higher. Now, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with having ridiculously high ambitions for yourself (whatever that looks like for you). However, today more than ever, it’s important for us to also address our fears and the thoughts which hold us back. The beautiful part about Tim Ferriss’ fear setting is that you learn how to prevent the disasters that you can prevent and the rest, you leave alone.
Let’s start, I hope you’re excited. You will need a pen and paper (or a table on Word if you prefer!) and three columns on the page.
For the first page:
Now we move on to the second page. If you started the basketball training, what would be the benefits of an attempt or partial success? Sometimes we focus too heavily on end goals and not enough on the process. Even if you don’t become a professional basketball player, you might discover a new hobby or make a new friend or realise that basketball isn’t for you, but netball is. The process is full of wins in itself.
On the third and final page, you write down the cost of inaction. What would happen in 6 months, 1 year or 2 years if you don’t do that thing on your mind. The point of this exercise is to try to think through our fears, it might not sort everything out, but it will help you weigh up whether some actions are worth taking or not.
Written by KB